There are numerous combinations of 3 words that have powerful meaning and consequently make us feel good. We all love hearing “I love you”, and many people think these are the most powerful words we can use. However, over the last couple of years I have seen firsthand the impressive impact of the phrase “I am enough”. You will all have heard it. Some of you will have seen the brilliant Brene Brown’s Ted talk covering it, if not you can watch it via https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability Marisa Peer also uses them as an important part of her therapy, as do I, and it is remarkable the impact of them.
Most of us at some point during our childhood sadly stop believing it and don’t think we are good enough. Whether that is to pass our exams, to get the guy/girl, to get a job or promotion, the list is endless. This lack of self belief often becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. However when you start telling yourself you are enough, and really believe it, something shifts and you start feeling empowered and everything becomes easier. Some of my clients are scared of being confident as they don’t want to appear cocky, but as I regularly tell them there is a difference between confidence and arrogance. We all deserve an abundance of confidence and there doesn’t have to be a hint of arrogance. It will help us be happier in ourselves and thus able to achieve so much more. This in turn has a ripple effect on those around us.
I was lucky enough to spend a couple of days at the Mind, Body, Spirit Wellbeing festival at Olympia on family expert Felicity Evans’s stand, see http://www.felicityevans.co.uk. I spoke to lots of incredible people, grandmothers, parents, amazing extended family members, caring teachers and wonderful kids, and it was evident that not everyone thinks they are enough, and it does start early which is heartbreaking to see. I was delighted when talking to a father and his 2 children and he said his 7 year daughter is pretty confident. He then asked her when she first felt she was enough and without hesitation she said “When I taught myself to do a backflip”. What a brilliant answer and attitude, something we should all aspire to.
I encourage you all to stick these 3 words somewhere you can see them, perhaps on the fridge or bathroom mirror, and read them and believe them every day and watch the magic happen. Please feel free to use the images at the top of the post or get creative and create your own version.
I think perhaps my back flip days are behind me but I know there are plenty of other things I can go and do now that I feel enough and that is so exciting. Do please let me know how you get on and what you are aiming for.